Em, I certainly don't know since I'm not going through this, but maybe this is exactly what you guys need. He seems to me from what I'm reading here to be a "cut the shit and lets just get this done" kind of guy. And do you really need coddling right now from your drs?? Sure I totally understand needing it from family and friends. I'd be the first to come over and give you a foot rub and sip coffee with you if I could. But I think you need a doctor who will just do it. Period. It sounds hopeful. I'm glad you're seeing a bit of humor in this. I love you and pray for a break from all of the pain associated with all of this. I love you and Drew. May God be with you and let this happen for you!!