Dear BB,
Tomorrow--August 10, 2009--was your due date. It's amazing how clearly I can remember these important dates for my lost babies--and how hard they seem to hit me when they finally arrive. Like your sister LJ, your Daddy and I will be forever saddened that we were unable to meet you. We regret that we missed seeing you grow inside my belly week by week. We know that you are now safe and happy and whole in heaven, being taken care of by other family members we also love and miss deeply, but...we still miss you, just the same.
I remember those very first feelings of wonder and thankfulness knowing you were there inside me; I remember the dates and events and emotions so clearly from last November. It had been another year and a half since we'd lost LJ, and we were beginning to think another pregnancy was out of reach. When we saw our miraculous positive home pregnancy test, neither your Daddy nor I could hold back the tears of joy.
We were immediately filled with both utter happiness and absolute trepidation, all at once. For us, we realize now, a positive pregnancy test will always be accompanied by a complex set of emotions. For every life we create, we feel hopeful and grateful, but we also fear another loss of life so strongly that that singular joy will always be somewhat muddled. I wish it didn't have to be that way, but our circumstances sort of determine our thoughts and actions in life, don't they?
I remember the pure elation I felt at the confirmation of your existence when the doctor called with your HCG quantatative blood test results, and I remember that fateful, hesitantly worried call several days later when your HCG levels did not continue to rise as they should. We knew right then that we would lose you, and the only thing left to do was wait...and say good-bye. The tears of joy we had cried days before were overtaken then by a torrent of heart-break that flooded our entire consciousness.
Little One, you were a part of our lives for such a short time, but you will always be a huge part of our family...taking up a huge spot in our hearts.
We'll miss you and love you forever,
Mommy and Daddy
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Re: Dear BB
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Aubrey
on Sun 09 Aug 2009 03:57 PM EDT | Profile | Permanent Link
As always, I'm sending loads of love and prayers your way. I love you both!
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BeckySearls
on Sun 09 Aug 2009 09:45 PM EDT | Profile | Permanent Link
I know what LJ stood for, but I either forget or am not sure what BB was for? I'm curious, if you're open to sharing....
Love you guys; thanks as always for sharing your journey with all of us, I know it can't be easy. Re: Re: Dear BB
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Anonymous
on Tue 11 Aug 2009 02:32 PM EDT | Permanent Link
Becky, BB stood for Beatrice and Brennan, the two names that were at the top of our list at that time. -Em
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Gail
on Mon 10 Aug 2009 11:58 AM EDT | Profile | Permanent Link
I'm proud of you for posting these thoughts, this letter. My heart goes out to both you and Drew.
I haven't given up Hope for you and Drew to have a family of your own. I haven't given up Faith that God above has a plan for you to be a mom to a child you can hold and love in your arms rather than just in your heart. I believe He wants more for you than Angel Babies. I still pray for it every night. I always will. :) Re: Dear BB
Your letters to your Angels always bring tears to my eyes. Your babies are so very lucky to have you as a Mama. LJ & BB will never be forgoten as intrical members of your family. I, like Gail, continue to pray and hope and have faith that the Lord has a miraculous plan for you and Drew. You are always in my thoughts and prayers. Love you!
Re: Dear BB
OKay, so I'm sorry to muck up such a beautiful post but I just have to apologize for not using spell check. And for apparently using a word that DOESN'T EXIST, dumbass!! Integral is what I meant....(see what I mean by lack of vocab!!)
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=intrical Trackbacks
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