The sliding doors automatically open, and I step into the lobby. The smell of sickness and antiseptic fill my nostrils, and I nod to the Candy Striper volunteers at the front desk. They recognize me now. I walk down the hall to the laboratory, then up to the receptionist. "Oh...you again." They recognize me now. I nod, fake a smile, and say, "Needles are my life!" I shrug and go find a seat to wait my turn. It's just me and one other woman in the waiting room. The lab closes in less than a half hour; I hurried here right after work. The woman is at least six months pregnant, happily reading a pregnancy magazine. For a second, I hate her. Then, in the next second, I am jealous of her. Two seconds later, I am filled to the brim with emotion--actual happiness--for her. "You must be so excited," I think to myself. "What a blessing--look at the human curled up right there inside of you."
I look away. She probably thinks, "Why is this woman staring at me?" I look down at my feet, blinking away the tears. I listen for my name, and it is finally called. The actual blood draws are also routine now. I barely wince. I watch the whole time--don't need to look away as the needle punctures my skin. I don't get light-headed anymore. I don't have that luxury. I need to go and get these tests done alone, sometimes several days a week, and I've had to build up my tolerance. Wham, bam. It's done. Time to go.
I walk out toward the front of the lab and the ladies wave good-bye. "How sad is it that most of them know my name?" I think to myself. I walk down the hallway and back toward the teenage Candy Stripers. They have textbooks open in front of them, but they're not doing their homework. They whisper and giggle. They look so young to me. "Did I look that young at sixteen?" I wonder. The young girls nod, and I think back to that time in my life. I must look so old to those girls. Thirty this year. I'm one of the women I never thought I'd be--nearly 30, the antithesis of sexy, fertile youth in my uniform of different colors. I long for their red and white stripes--so fresh, so cheerful. My uniform is made up of black and blue--bruises line the inside of my arms. I keep them covered, put my head down, and fight back the tears again as the sliding doors automatically open for me to leave.
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Re: A Different Color Uniform
More like this please! What a vivid snapshot. Beautiful, Em.
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Amanda
on Tue 10 Mar 2009 01:39 AM EDT | Permanent Link
Love you lots...sending prayers your way!
Re: A Different Color Uniform
Oh Em, this is so raw. I love being 30, but lately have really been feeling that age gap between the teenagers and myself now. I was so glad to finally be 30 with the brood I've got, but I still like to think of myself as young.
But yep, we were certainly that "young" at 16. I remember all our tittering in the huddled up masses and how we had our lives so planned out. I miss those day so much, but knowing that I'd have to relive all that followed it, I'm glad to have the future instead of the past coming up. I hope you can find something good in all of this. I miss you. Re: A Different Color Uniform
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Gail
on Thu 12 Mar 2009 03:52 PM EDT | Profile | Permanent Link
Beautifully written, Em!
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Anonymous
on Tue 17 Mar 2009 05:49 PM EDT | Permanent Link
Hello Em, I don't mind at all that you left a comment! Any friend of Aaron is a friend of mine. He was my husband's best roomate in college, the best man in our wedding, the third piece of our Three's Company until beautiful Kelli came along.
Thank you for sharing your story with me as well. Infertility, waiting, loss... all of it - most of us suffer in silence - bitter silence. I hope and pray that you will remain steadfast in the thought that the Lord would not have given you a desire to be a mother if He didn't plan to provide. He has something great in the making. Stop by our site anytime. Mia is our joy - our proof of a miracle. You can click on RIGHT SIDE UP at the top to read a more detailed version of the story plus a video celebration of her first year of life. Just like in 1st Samuel chapter 1, Hannah made a bargain with God that if he gave her a baby, she'd give him up to the Lord... I made a bargain with God that if my pregnancy was successful, I'd use it as a witnessing too. We have now spoken at several churches!!! We are honored to be able to have a story to tell for HIM. Never give up. Jilli Re: A Different Color Uniform
As others have said, this is one very beautiful post!
Also, I love Jilli's comment that the Lord would not have given you the desire to be a mother if he didn't plan to provide. So simple, yet so very profound. I think about you and pray for you every day. Trackbacks
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